currently listening to: little dragon – pretty girls
First, I would like to thank everyone who has supported Karasi thus far. I took a chance starting this movement because I did not know what would come of it. I still don’t. But I knew that I owed it to myself and others to just take a chance and see what would happen. To me, I am successful even if I only help one person. In the months since I’ve started, I’ve toyed with many ideas but was really unsure of where to take Karasi next. I decided to start this blog because I believe it is a good way for my message reach others. However, building up the courage to actually start, was the hardest part.
I’m guilty of putting too much pressure on myself and I know many of you can relate. Even writing this first blog post was difficult! I have the phrase “worry not” tattooed on my wrist because I need to constantly remind myself that it will be okay. As women, women of color especially, there is always a looming fear that we will never be good enough. We live in a society that tells us our voices don’t matter. It tells us that we can never be great and that we will never amount to anything. Because of this, we live in a state of constant pressure to surpass the boundaries defined by society, and the expectations set by our families or those we set for ourselves. We want to be great, but we are also afraid to fail. We wait around for the perfect moment to come. But at some point you have to realize that perfect moment may never come. Taking that first step can be scary but it is necessary if we want any growth to occur. Here are 6 tips on how to take the plunge:
- Let go of fear. The biggest roadblocks are those we set for ourselves. Don’t be afraid to fail. One small step leads to more steps and before you know it you’ll be wondering why you didn’t start sooner.
- Be loose, welcome mistakes. Go with the flow. Embrace the ups and downs as part of your journey. Treat your mistakes as learning experiences. Don’t take yourself too seriously. You are human, humans are not perfect. Go in with the expectation that you may make mistakes and you will not be disappointed.
- Consider the positives. Yes, everything may go wrong, but think about what could go right!
- Hold yourself accountable but don’t apply too much pressure. It is important to set goals, but go easy on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t meet your goals in the time you allotted. If you have to restart 10 times look at each time with a new approach.
- Be realistic. Set goals that feel attainable. As you accomplish more, it will motivate you to keep pushing the limits. Also, know why you are doing this!
- Just start! You don’t have to have it all figured out. Grow as you go.
4 affirmations to help you take the plunge:
I am confident in my abilities
Fear is in the mind.
I am in control of my destiny
I am not my mistakes
If you wait until you’re ready, you’ll be waiting for the rest of your life.